March 24, 2010

Effective Listening



Sebenernya gw bukan baru nyadar, sering banget kalo gw abis telpon, meski ama client skalipun, pasti sambil coret-coretan. Ini gw post, salah satu coret2an gw, meski gw kadang jg bingung kok bisa-bisanya ampe ada gambar (yg nyaris berbentuk) sgala..padahal kebanyakan gw yg mendominasi pembicaraan :)

Ada teori, pas dulu gw ke psikiater, gw disuruh gambar sambil ngobrol ama dia, pas dia liat gambar gw, yang keluar justru tulisan ama beberapa gambar yang lebih berbentuk coret2an gak puguh dan semrawutan... dia bilang otak kanan gw dominan, terus gw multitasker, kemudian gara-gara dipaksa kerjaan yang engineering dimana logika dan angka harus jalan (baca butuh banyak otak kiri..ini kelemahan gw, bukti: gak bisa baca peta, tukang nyasar, sama hutang dimana2, sama uang habis terus karena gak bisa ngitung...hehehehe..apa itu karena sebab lain ya?!), makanya katanya gw sering gak fokus gara2 gw memaksa kapasitas otak kiri gw..yang at the end kalo gw stress gw bisa mimpi buruk sa-buruk2nya mimpi...hallas itu teori psikiater ..bener salahnya wallohu'alam.
Yang penting, open mind, karena kalo gw ngikutin si psikiater, gw harus ganti kerjaan jadi pelukis (yg mana gw gak bakat), atau jadi penulis (nge-blog aja lah). Dari dulu open mind lah yang ngebawa gw bisa ngelewatin tantangan2an (ciee..sok iya bener).

Open mind bagi gw berarti gak ada yang gak mungkin..kalo orang lain bisa..kenapa kita enggak..Allah tak pernah membatasi diluar apa yang jelas hitam putihnya di Quran..


Balik lagi ke coret2 pas lagi nelpon...ada teori lain yg hampir senada..bahwa sebenernya itu distraction, gw baca di sumber-nya schlumberger pas ngerjain module LMS "Effective Listening". Karena kita bisa hilang fokus mendengarkan/pembicaraan. Mmm..kalo dipikir2 bener juga (bahasa kasarnya ngelamun), tapi yg jelas (khusus untuk coret2an diatas) mungkin karena barusan gw abis nelpon buat informal conversation, biasanya kalo meeting ama client, banyak juga coret2an nya, tapi stidaknya pake bullet point,,dan tentu gak pake gambar :)

Jadi inget aja komentar bos gw dulu, pas gw review LMS module Effective Listening ini.."I'll let you completed this module, and mark it as done, but if I may suggest you, keep this paper carefully, this is a lifetime learning, one day when you married, you'll know how important it is, my wife, for sure she knew that I've never complete this module..she always tell me that I never listen to her"..haha..si Bos emang edun :)

March 22, 2010

Buka Cangcut



I should write something positive about being in Doha, right? So people back home, will not worried too much :) or at least, pretend that me being here, is not only for work in this boring company hehe..
Well, I am not really good in lying, so I am not gonna say it is as fun as back home, that even with my eyes close, I still can pick any places in the map where the beautiful beaches, mountains or thousands of cultural sites exist :) teuteup promosi negeri sendiri ..ya Indonesia trully asia gitu loh..
so at least, I finally have chance to see the other side of my colleagues..the real and fun side which most of the time were hidden behind their two gingantic computer screens..
Couple weeks ago, we went for a cruise. A small tradisional boat cruise (not a fancy one of course, our company is not that fat). We were cruising around the Doha corniche..just the corniche (I dont even think this boat could go any further safely). The view was kind of okay, I can see the city light. The air was also nice, we are just about to start spring so it was a pleasant trip.
Oh yeah..the boat is also fully equipped with loud traditional music..(really loud..as if they only have button ON AND LOUD or OFF) And since we hardly able to speak with those guys (we thought they were speaking english, but apparently their english were totally different, we couldnt understand each other)..So at the end, we had to deal with it.
After we got bored with the joke, then we swithced to game..for some reason, only indonesian know how to do some game..at first we did hom pim pa alaikum gambreng hehe I dont know it could be that fun..considering none of us were drunk (except with our job hehe)..and we were acting like bunch of 5 years old kids...



oh ya..I hope God forgive me for the second game..I introduced them with "BUKA CANGCUT" game..well I didnt tell them initially what the meaning of buka cangcut is (it is indonesia langungage), and they didnt seem to care anyway after the hom pim pa . I actually made up the game, I took it from one of Japanese TV channel long time ago.
So it is a speed spell word game with tone variation. People gather in a cirlce and basically just say BUKA CANGCUT with different tone.
1st person: BUUUUUU ka cangcut ......(with high pitch on Buuuu)
2nd person: Bu KAAAAA cangcut .......(with high pitch on KAAA)
3rd person: Buka CANGGGGGG cut
4th person: Buka CangCUUUUTTTTTT and so on...
(remember to do it continously in a cirle, and as fast as possible..and the speller need to bent down on pitch tone part)

Haha..it was fun...very very fun..(Sorry Mas Edhi and Pak Albert for making you guys ashamed knowing me and share nationality with me hahahaha..Pak Albert ampe geleng-geleng kepala bingung)...

at last, when we were to tired after so many round of BUKA CANGCUT game..then I told them what was the meaning of it which is take off your underw**r...hehe...and they burst to laugh kind of HATE ME BUT LOVE ME at the same time after that...seriously :) here what they did to me afterward..

..I have camera, but I never been in the picture..so one of them was nicely take my picture alone..(they are really nice)..



..I've no group picture..so I beg them to let me be in a group picture with them...and see what they did..(they cut me half..can you find me?)...



Ohh...Buka Cangcut...The next day in the office they said "Yallah habibi..buka cangcut..hallas..buka cangcut" to Pak Sahriar..

And Pak Sahriar (ketua pengajian cabang Doha) melotot ...dan langsung menatap gw dengan tatapan penuh cinta :) hehehehe.........maaf Pak! Piss Pak!!

March 19, 2010

Sabar Mate!

Teman..jujur gw gak tau harus bilang apa. Hidup emang susah..banyak ujian, dan tiap orang di uji dengan cara yang beda. Emang kalo ngeliat orang lain, mungkin kita gak puas, bahkan nyangka orang lain hidupnya lebih senang, apa gimana...tapi gw yakin, orang lain jg punya masalah ...punya problem...punya pertanyaan yang beda..diuji sama Allah dgn cara yang beda..biar dia berkembang ..sesuai potensi nya...(ingat Allah itu maha adil)...cuma aja kita nggak tau..dan kadang gak mau tau...dan gak mau nyadar,,

Kalo lu pikir orang lain nasibnya lebih baik sekarang, itu pasti ada yg mereka korbanin..ada usaha yg panjang...ada jerih payah yg gak gampang dimasa lalu... lima taun yg lalu? Sepuluh taun yang lalu?..cuma saja kita gak tau..

MAKANYA nggak adil emang kalo kita ngebandingin diri kita dengan yg lain, karena sebenarnya kita gak tau orang lain itu hidupnya bagaiamana dulu..yang adil itu adalah kita bandingin dengan diri kita sendiri...karena apa? karena kita tau banget hidup kita..Gimana ngebandinginnya? Bandingin hidup lu skarang dengan lu 5 taun lalu..bandingin dengan lu 10 taun lalu..Adakah perbaikan? Adakah yang perlu di tambah?
..kalo ada yg perlu diperbaiki maka lakukanlah..kalo ada yg perlu dibenerin benerin lah..

TAPI SATU HAL...jangan berharap hidup lu berubah seketika..perubahan yang lu lakuin skarang..mungkin baru bisa lu tuai bener2 hasilnya taun depan,,dua taun kedepan..atau 5 taun ke depan..atau 10 taun ke depan..
Belajar lah lu punya visi ke depan..UDAH jgn trlalu mikirin keburukan2 yang udah lu lakuin di masa lalu..kalo sekarang lu mau berubah..lakukan sekarang..dan niatin buat lo tuai suatu saat nanti..masa yang akan datang..

Gak ada yang ngerubah masa depan lu..selain lu sendiri sekarang..karena lu udah dewasa..lu harus bisa ngatur sendiri...dan gw yakin lu diatur orang lain juga pasti gak mau...jadi lakuin sekarang kalo lu mau berubah..

Teman..gw cuma bisa bantu ngasih pendapat dari sisi gw, ujung2nya ini tentang hidup lo...cuma lu sendiri yang bisa ngerubah..sama Allah tentunya. Kalo lu punya tekad yg kuat, lakuinlah untuk berubah...jangan lupa berdoa sama Allah biar tekad lu tetep kuat..dan minta petunjuk Allah...
Oh ya, jgn lupa bersyukur juga, karea Allah msh ngasih kesempatan lo bernapas hari ini, ngasih lu pencerahan untuk berubah..ngasih lo rahmat sedemikian lo berpikir...gw seneng denger lo mau berubah..punya niat berubah..meski gw gak bisa turut andil ..cuma bisa nasehatin ..itu pun gw belum tentu bisa lakuin ..
Sabar ya...

PS: Kalo lu lg down..cerita ke gw kalo ada masalah..jgn lo makan sendiri...gw tau lu udah dewasa..dan tau apa yg terbaik buat hidup lu sendiri..gw percaya ama lu..